"Woah. No way she had also experienced this!"
Yes. Fucking. Way.
Don't we all?
And it's always the mid ones too! The heck?
There should be a scientific study on this.
Actually, scratch that.
There should be several.
Because why is it that the moment I stop liking a guy, stop texting first, stop waiting for his replies, stop caring whether he notices me or not, THAT'S when he suddenly remembers I exist?
Interesting.
Very interesting.
When I liked you, you had the emotional availability of a brick wall.
Now that I've moved on, you're writing paragraphs.
Amazing.
Let's dive into this, shall we?
Sample #1
Mr. Dancer dances well.
Mr. Dancer is famous.
Mr. Dancer is friendly to all.
You like Mr. Dancer, but Mr. Dancer doesn't like you.
Every day, you try hard to make him laugh, and Mr. Dancer does laugh.
Mr. Dancer would treat you like he cares, but Mr. Dancer doesn't like you.
You start to get confused by his actions, but in the end, Mr. Dancer doesn't like you.
Until you stopped liking Mr. Dancer, and start entertaining another.
Wow!
Now, Mr. Dancer starts wanting you.
He starts to like your posts, sometimes reply to them.
He also starts giving you the attention you wanted.
Too bad, you don't like Mr. Dancer anymore.
What is Mr. Dancer?
Mr. Dancer is an idiot.
An endangered species known as The Too-Late Male.
Sample #2
You thought Mr. Blythe was cute.
You talk to Mr. Blythe.
Mr. Blythe knows you like him.
Mr. Blythe starts dating someone else.
Fair enough.
You move on.
You stop talking to Mr. Blythe.
Mr. Blythe breaks up with his girlfriend.
Suddenly, Mr. Blythe remembers your number.
What the hell, Mr. Blythe?
What is Mr. Blythe?
Mr. Blythe is mental.
A man who somehow confused me with his backup plan.
Sample #3
Mr. Glasses is your type.
Mr. Glasses is really your type.
You confess to Mr. Glasses.
Mr. Glasses doesn't care.
Mr. Glasses is busy, he said.
Mr. Glasses doesn't want a relationship, he said.
You keep pestering Mr. Glasses with messages.
Mr. Glasses doesn't care.
You got tired.
You stopped messaging Mr. Glasses.
Mr. Glasses replies.
What is Mr. Glasses?
Mr. Glasses is a man.
Unfortunately.
The funny thing is, when this first happened to me, I thought it was a coincidence.
Then it happened again.
And again.
At some point, you stop thinking,
"Wow. He likes me now."
And start thinking,
"Oh. Here we go again."
Because somehow, the attention never arrives when you're actually waiting for it.
It arrives after you've finally accepted that it's not coming.
And for a brief moment, they make you question yourself.
Did he like me all along?
Did I give up too soon?
Should I try again?
Then you remember that he had every opportunity to show interest before.
He just didn't.
So back to our main question:
Why do some men only become interested after you've lost interest?
Did this piece answer the question?
Well...
What do these three men have in common?
Ding ding ding!
The answer is: they liked the attention.
Some men don't actually want you.
They want your attention.
And the moment that attention disappears, they suddenly mistake its absence for feelings.
Tragic.
For them, I mean.
It's funny how that works.
Researchers still remain puzzled by this behavior.
Further investigation is required.
Men, Unfortunately 🙄